Sometimes people seeking sex therapy need intensive therapy as part of their work. Sex therapists follow a model called PLISSIT, which stands for Permission, Limited Information, Specific Suggestions and Intensive Therapy.
In the past women’s sexuality was misunderstood and unexplored until the women’s liberation encouraged a curious stance and growing awareness in the ways in which women’s sexuality differed from men’s. Still, there still are many unanswered questions to the multifaceted complexities of female arousal.
With adequate information about sexual anatomy and physiology as well as how the sexual response cycle works, the psychology of human sexuality and the social contexts of sex - you can go on and design the sex life you want to have with the people you want to have it with.
Feeling desire and feeling compelled to act on that is not an addiction or a sin - it is a basic human drive. How you relate to others sexually, and what emotions may or may not be tied to sex are higher up in the hierarchy and are considered "higher order" needs/drives.
As a sex therapist, this is one of the most common complaints that people present with in my office: I'm having problems getting it up (or it's variation: I'm having problems keeping it up- especially to penetrate my partner/s). Gay, straight, bi, single, coupled or poly - a LOT of people are obsessed with having a rock-hard boner on demand.